What Is a Healthy Breakup? (For Teens)
Relationships can be great, but there may come a time when it is no longer what a person wants. A healthy breakup is as crucial as a healthy relationship and can affect health now and later. A breakup should be based on the same rules of respect, dignity and healthy contact as a healthy relationship. Here are some tips for going through a healthy breakup.
A healthy breakup means to:
- Give the person space to talk about feelings and needs.
- Hear what the person has to say.
- Respect the reason for calling it off.
- Give time and space for healing and thinking.
- Say things that support the person, even when upset about the breakup.
- Be trustworthy.
- Act as an equal and treat the person as an equal.
- Behave in ways that show you accept the relationship has ended.
A healthy breakup means not to:
- Break up over text or social media.
- Insult the person.
- Share private information with others.
- Post about the breakup on social media.
- Use force or threats.
- Damage the person's reputation.
- Hurt the person physically or sexually.
- Call, text or visit the person when it is not wanted.
- Stalk the person online, through friends or in person.
- Make demands on the person's time, money, property or space.
- Convince the person to stay in the relationship.
If, after a breakup, a person feels upset and wants to hurt him- or herself or others, that person should get help from a trusted counselor, parent, doctor or nurse.
Anyone who has been abused may call the National Dating Abuse Helpline to talk or get advice from a teen or adult: 1-866-331-9474 (TTY 1-866-331-8453).
To find the domestic abuse program nearest you, visit http://www.pcadv.org/ and click on Find Help or use the Find Help map on the home page.