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Is Your Relationship Healthy?

In a healthy relationship, there is respect for a dating partner's feelings. There is respect for that person's interests and wishes. Words, feelings, and actions are positive and supportive. The number of texts and calls do not control your time.

Ask yourself these questions to begin thinking about how healthy your relationship is.

Does my dating partner:

  • Judge me?
  • Lack interest in what is important to me?
  • Not want to give me personal space or time with friends?
  • Take up my day with texts and calls to ask me where I am, what I am doing and if I love him?
  • Ask me to wear less or more clothing?
  • Accuse me of flirting when I talk to other people?
  • Request my Facebook password?
  • Say things "out of the blue" to make me wonder if I have said or done something to make him/her mad?
  • Threaten me or my things?
  • Say he/she is "playing" when he physically hurts me?
  • Say he/she is "joking" when he puts me down?
  • Pressure me to have a baby?
  • Forget his/her role in birth control or often have other problems with birth control?

Answering "yes" to any of these questions can mean you are in an unhealthy relationship. The more "yes" answers you have the more at risk you are for dating abuse.

Dating abuse can happen to boys and girls, whether straight, bisexual, gay, or lesbian. Also, it can happen regardless of religion or how much money someone has.

If you need more information on healthy relationships or dating abuse, please:

Call the National Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474 (TTY 1-866-331-8453). Callers can speak with a teen or adult to ask questions and talk.

See the websites: